My embarrassment at being permanently overwhelmed

Hello [FIRST NAME GOES HERE],

BEING CONSTANTLY OVERWHELMED SUCKS - WHY DO WE NORMALIZE IT?

Overwhelm: When you make the unhelpful decision to stop breathing, lose perspective, and forget you’re in control of your life. ~ Jen Sincero

Do you yearn to feel free, inspired, abundant, joyous and energized? Well I do. And I wasn't feeling that way in March. I felt really stressed about most aspects of my life and was back to the constant sense of like having too much on my plate. In a training I have done we spend considerable time on the 12 self-limiting beliefs and my predominant one is referred to as "The Capacity Belief". Essentially it's about feeling one never has enough time, money or space to do what we want to do. Our brains are constantly on the go, and we live in a permanently adrenalised state. I've known I have this issue, but not with this much clarity - for - well, like my whole adult life - but I have only known about it being my predominant self-limiting belief for about 2 years. Yet I haven't managed to shift it much. But something has recently clicked for me.

I did a programme that really helped me and I want to share just one thing I am now doing that has changed things. I do not start my work day until I am in alignment. What does that mean? Well, it means that I feel free, inspired, abundant, joyous and energized. For me the bare minimum means starting with an exercise called Writing My Reality. I open my laptop, head straight to my WRITING MY REALITY doc (ignoring all mail etc) and start to write about my life as I want it to be - but in the present tense. It feels a bit lame at first but as I continue I start to feel inspired by the thoughts pouring out of me. A lot of it is the same each day, but new thoughts come too. Then I use some other journalling prompts such as:

"Looking back what I now see made the biggest difference in my up level and easily shifting into these results and hitting my goals was…"

and I write what comes to mind. It is amazing how when you allow yourself to free-write, the answers actually come.

There's a lot of experts out there reminding us we only use about 10% of our brain - or is it 20%? In any case we operate from a pretty limited operating system most of the time. Yet more and more I am seeing teachers everywhere showing people how to tap into the Universal Mind. The field that unites us all. It's the invisible energy holding this whole damn show together. And when we slow down, and get present we start tapping into that, and really cool things start to happen. Multiple synchronicities and opportunities show up. Life becomes so much easier. We tap into flow. We meet just the right person for a job or project we had in mind.

I have had periods of my life when I felt like this. I have experienced multiple miracles and I'm happy to share about them. But I struggle to stay there and it was feeling like I just wasn't aligned this year. I went back to feeling I needed to hustle all the time. And I went back to feeling overwhelmed most of the time.

Now I'm getting back in flow. And it's flipping awesome. I want to share what I'm learning.

Some days I use different journalling prompts - like "what would it feel like to live in flow?" And "what would work or project would I be doing now if I knew it could not fail?" This is how I came up with the idea to create the Awakening Lawyers Mentorship Programme and it just flew out of me onto paper. One of the things I was writing in Write my Reality, is that I get to work with soul mate clients - like really awesome people that I'd want to hang out with on Zoom anyway. And that is already happening! I have had conevrsations in the last 3 weeks where we've had such deep connections we've been tearful. Yes, with LAWYERS! With beautiful soul-led, courageous, fascinating lawyers who are practising law differently. Half way through a chat last week I said to one - I HAVE to interview you, because everything you're saying needs to be heard by people trying to find their way in the law. It look like the Awakening Lawyers Podcast really wants to be born.

These things are only happening because I stopped hustling long enough to listen to what wants to happen. And to get back in alignment.

The other tools I'm using?

1. I write my reality
2. I walk (nearly) every day. I will get running again soon! But for now it's walking.
3. While walking I listen to inspiring audios that keep re-programming my mind from the usual self limiting beliefs we have running. It's daily work not to listen to the bullshit in your head about what's not working in your life.
4. I meditate, almost every day.

I have learned EVERYTHING is energy. When I am in a high vibration state, things work. So it becomes much easier to do stuff and attract stuff. While it may seem to you looking at my list "I don't have time for all that" - it totally saves you time, because when you're aligned, everything flows: you will attract clients easily - so less time on client meeting or looking for new work. You will write faster and more easily, including drafting documents. You will know what steps to take next so all that worrying time is lessened. You will have more energy so days are easier. Do you know that you will only sign up clients if your energy matches what they are looking for - often subconsciously. So if you meet prospective clients and you are desperate for the work, you will be radiating this and won't get it. If you talk about how you have brilliant solutions for their problems, but radiate your own worry - (seriously people pick up this shit!) they will not choose you. It becomes a vicious cycle, but it can be broken.

The results I'm experiencing:

• I do not feel overwhelmed every day. it creeps back in from time to time but I catch it!
• I am really excited about my work.
• Suddenly I noticed abut 40% of the people I correspond with are commenting on my energy, just randomly out the blue whether it's on zoom or email or Linked In messages. They all mention my energy.
• Clients are approaching me.
• I am making more money.
• I've taken some pretty big personal steps towards stuff I really wanted in my life but was too scared/ didn't have the money. I jumped, trusting the Universe would have my back and it did.
• I am more present each day, because I am less overwhelmed.
• I feel grateful more often.
• I feel like my marriage is in a better place and every day I look at my kid and can't believe how lucky I am to be his mom.

That's quite a lot for 6 weeks.

Why am I telling you this?

I run Awakening Lawyers to help lawyers who love the law but are disillusioned and disheartened by the way it’s practised, to re-imagine and redesign their lives so that they can practice in their own way, in their own time, and on their own terms.

I've been doing this in various ways since 2012 but sometimes the ways I should be helping lawyers hasn't been so clear to me. A big part of it was feeling like I needed to sound a certain way, do things a certain way, get certain institutions approval or funding.

I'm over all that now.

I'm showing up as me. All of who I am. It seems to take a long time for us to give ourselves permission to do this. And it is REALLY HARD in a super-conservative, rigid, left brain profession, for lawyers to set themselves free. But there are lawyers doing this, and they are HAPPY and ENERGIZED and JOYOUS and FREE. And I want to share the stories of those who've found their way, and help you find yours.

But first you have to choose to step out of overwhelm.

I will be offering 10 slots for free Clarity Calls in the next 2 weeks. These are calls with me, in which we look at what you most want right now, and explore what's holding you back and how we might get you there. I have a range of tools - including contacting your spiritual guides for help with that pesky issue - "um, why am I here again?"

The world has enough burnt out, disillusioned lawyers.

Don't be one of them.

Choose differently.

Drop me a mail back if you're ready to book a Clarity Call. You don't have to sign up for anything. We will talk and see what you need.
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I am a legal futurist, a lawyer coach and a channel.
I love working with lawyers at all stages of their awakening journey, especially those who are starting to see a new role for themselves as peacemakers, as justice warriors and as activists for social change. I work with my clients to deal with the challenges they face working within a restrictive and often conservative legal culture that promotes hiding your authentic self under a professional mask and suppressing both your own and your client’s emotions.

l look forward to hearing from you if it feels right. Always go by HOW YOU FEEL. If this feels exciting - reach out for a free Clarity Call.